What you can do to get help

Get help

Being a victim of dating or domestic violence is not your fault.  Nothing you say, wear, or do gives anyone the right to hurt you.

  • If you think you are in an abusive relationship, get help immediately.  Don’t keep your concerns to yourself.
  • Talk to someone you trust like a parent, tacher, trusted family member, a friend’s parent, older sibling, school principal, counselor or nurse.
  • If you choose to tell, you should know that some adults are mandated reporters.  This means they are legally required to report neglect or abuse to someone else, like the police or child protective services.  some examples of mandated reporters are teachers, counselors, doctors, social workers, and in some cases even coaches or activity leaders.

Help yourself

Think about ways you can be safer.  This means thinking aobut what to do, where to go for help, and who to call ahead of time.

Here are other precautions you can take:

  • Let friends or family know when you are afraid or need help
  • When you go out say where you  are  going and when you’ll be back
  • In an emergency call 911 or your local police department
  • Memorize important phone numbers like the people to contact or places you can go in an emergency
  • Keep spare change, calling cards, or a cell phone handy for immedfiate access to communication
  • Go out in a group with other couples

How you can help others who may be in abusive relationships:

  • Tell the person that you are worried
  • Be a good listener
  • Offer your friendship and support
  • Ask how you can help
  • Encourage your friend to seek help
  • Educate yourself about dating violence and healthy relationships

Avoid any confrontations with the abuser.  This could be dangerous for you and your friend!